Here are five ways for you to give the gift of appreciation.
1. Be specific. Instead of simply saying, “Well done,” take the time to notice what, in particular, was noteworthy. Adding specifics always strengthens a compliment. Some good compliment starters include:
•You did a wonderful job with…
•I have great admiration for…
•I am grateful for…
•I really appreciate your…
2. Make it about character. Perhaps the most memorable compliment is the one that recognizes who the other person is, rather than what they do. To make a specific compliment even more meaningful, include recognition of the other person’s character. Some good character compliments include:
•You have a way with words.
•It’s obvious that you know what you are doing.
•You are a good listener.
•You are funny.
3. Drop a line; draft a note. If you really want someone to feel the full weight of your compliment, put it in writing as well. A good old-fashioned snail-mail letter or hand-written note shows a special effort on your part to express appreciation. It also gives the person a real-life reminder of your praise.
4. Be sincere. Compliments that mean the most come from people who say what they mean, and mean what they say. You can increase the impact of your compliments by only passing on praise when you sincerely feel it.
5. Turnaround is fair play. If you are lucky enough to be on the receiving end of a compliment, learn to accept it with grace. Many people feel embarrassed when complimented and stumble and stammer in the face of appreciation. Don’t. Let the other person have the satisfaction of giving you a sincere compliment. When all else fails, a simple “thank you” will always suffice.
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Karen Leland is the bestselling author of six books including Time Management In An Instant: 60 Ways to Make the Most of Your Day. She is the co-founder of Sterling Consulting Group, which helps organizations and individuals learn how to fight distraction and find their focus in a wired world. For more information please contact: [email protected]